Letting Go Can Be Hard But Doable

by: Catherine Franz

Being a coach, I learned through attending Coach University about letting go of the “stuff” in my life that no longer fueled it. This enhanced itself through my studies in becoming a master practitioner in the laws of attraction — the process of how our environment, the things and people in it, affect what we attract in the present moment. Along with this came of sensing the heaviness of possessions.

My journey began eight years ago and even today I am still letting go except the items have thinned out considerably. I discovered through time that the process needed to occur in increments and in small amounts. It was as if I needed to grieve a little in between. Even though that may sound stupid, it does to me too, it’s my naked truth.

It began at my medicine chest. During my first honestly aware visit it was all I could do but toss out a few expired pills. Every week thereafter over the next month all I could do was remove one item here and there. Setting a goal of one a day only worked in spurts. Eventually, the cabinet, which didn’t have much in the first place, was fully functional and only what I really needed.

Then came the linen closet and afterwards my home office. I sold a majority of my books on Amazon. As my shelves became more honest, and of course lighter, my writing began to change. My productivity doubled, my focus, commitment, and clarity took leaps. This was one of my happiness times during this project. The more I let go, the more my writing improved. I also made a New Year’s resolution to stop buying books for a year. For an avid reader and book junkie this was painfully hard. I’m proud to say I made it to September before I broke.

The New Year’s resolution included a side point — I had to read to let go of every book on my shelf that I hadn’t already read or that didn’t fit my current needs. This philosophy is still in effect. The next year I progressed and came up with the one-book in and one-book out policy. I’m not always successful, yet, I’ve found it a good rule of thumb, especially for the wallet. The sale profits sit in a savings account and the account only allows one withdrawal a month. This maintains orderly spending for my weakest link — buying too many books. It worked for a few years until I developed my own discipline and discernment. Was it easy, heck no! In fact, I can remember times when my logic and desires were in the boxing ring. Does it get easier, heck yes!Sometimes you just have to let go of what's go...

During the book honesty process I had to develop a new reading-research system. This required me to read and process the information different. I started a journaling system, first manual, then computerized. It also created a very productive self-learning process that I found absolutely fabulous and still use today.

Responsibility to maintain even what is hidden away or what remains holds a lot of unseen debiting energy. Letting go is removing the debits so there is room for new credits to enter. I could feel the energy getting zapped. Kitchen appliances making me feel guilty because I don’t use them frequently.

Now my life is getting simpler and my writing is improving immensely. I no longer want very much nor dream of buying this or that. Advertising no longer pulls my strings longer than a few seconds which is a fabulous freedom.

Letting go isn’t easy. There is the stage of acknowledgment. At this stage you will realize how some things hold you back. Even today, on occasion, it seems weird knowing that even stuff hidden away in a closet or storage unit can affect my present and future success. New doors opened in my writing and beliefs. You will see your gifts blossom as you move past the doubt and experience these moments.

The second stage is deciding what you are ready to let go of. This can only be done in the present moment. It requires seeing the truth of what the items are really costing you balanced with removing the doubt. Self-trust and confidence builds in big ways during this stage. The more you experience the results the more self-trust increases and doubt decreases.

The fear that you will one day need what it is you are letting go is a hard step. And self-honesty is the only solution. Easier for some things than with others. During my eight years on working through this process, only twice did I find I really missed something. And a short time later I found a replacement that either saved me time or increase productivity many times over.

The third stage is the results stage. Life will become easier, less overwhelming and stressful, and more creative. You will have more time for the things that really matter most. You will also need to learn not to settle for just any ole stuff again. Everything that enters now will have a blessed energy that fuels your life. It will fuel your life and encourage even more letting go.

Where do you want to start today? The medicine cabinet, a drawer, or your desk. Be honest with it. What can you let go today to gain more energy tomorrow?

Copyright © 2005 Catherine Franz

About Catherine: Catherine Franz, writer, speaker, marketing master, specializes in infoproduct development. More at: http://www.MarketingStrategiesToGo.com and http://www.AbundanceCenter.com. Including articles and ezines.

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You CAN Improve Your Relationship

by: Kim Olver

It seems as if creating successful relationships with our significant others and parenting children are two of the most difficult jobs we face and yet we get no formal training in either. It’s as if people believe that we are born with an inherent ability to do these two things. Yet, look around us. In the US, the divorce rate is slightly over 50%! I don’t know anywhere but baseball where a 50% average is a good thing.

Couples go through life getting along when times are good; and fighting with, ignoring, or leaving each other when things get tough. Most people believe that to seek help with their relationships means to admit a certain kind of defeat that says something about who they are as a person. Or possibly, they believe that relationships are something we are just supposed to be able to manage on our own. Or, finally, some people believe that those out there helping couples can’t know any more than they do. After all, what’s to know about keeping relationships together?

Well, the truth is that there is a whole lot to learn when it comes to relationships. Unfortunately, the only training most of us ever receive is the passive learning we get through the modeling of the adults who live in our house with us and the media. Now, I don’t know about you, but my parents had only received the informal training they got from their parents, and they from my great grandparents and so on back through the generations. There is so much more to know about relationships than that!

For Two Bits Tuesday: B A L A N C E
For Two Bits Tuesday: B A L A N C E (Photo credit: EraPhernalia Vintage . . . (playin’ hook-y ;o))

Also, my parents have helped support that 50% statistic cited earlier in that they divorced sometime around their 25th wedding anniversary. What I learned about relationships from watching them is that couples never argue, especially in front of the children. On the surface, my parents had a very happy marriage but my father experienced a stereotypical mid-life crisis and suddenly questioned the meaning of “life” and decided marriage was holding him back somehow.

In some ways, this type of training may have been as bad as those who have parents who argue all the time. Disagreements are a natural by-product of relationships. It is virtually impossible for two people to come together and create a life without some of their ideals, values, opinions or day-to-day activities coming into conflict with each other. The question becomes how the couple manages this conflict.

There are many things to consider when speaking about couples and their challenges and areas for growth and development. The first is compatibility. I know there is an expression that says opposites attract and I believe there is some accuracy in that statement when you think of attraction as that chemical interaction that occurs when two people meet and are attracted. This chemical attraction doesn’t care what the other person’s values are, what is important to him or her, the personality characteristics involved, or what either of you likes to do in your spare time. Compatibility is a key for a successful, healthy relationship. Go to www.therelationshipcenter.biz and take the free Assessment to determine your compatibility with your partner.

A second consideration is simply that there are major differences in how men are in relationships compared to how women are. Women generally don’t understand men because the men don’t act like women and similarly, men don’t understand women because they don’t act like men. And since a woman has never been a man and a man has never been a woman, how does each learn about these important differences? John Gray researched and wrote about these issues in his book, Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus. But I would say that the majority of people in relationships don’t take the time to learn about these gender differences. It is easier to point a finger and blame the other person for his or her “irrational” behavior.

As mentioned earlier, a third area of growth is learning how to manage conflict. There are time proven methods for resolving conflict that we don’t learn in school or from a book. There are ways to actually hear each other in relationships. By placing the relationship FIRST in importance, these methods can be implemented by couples to greatly improve their satisfaction.

There is so much to learn about satisfying relationships that your parents never showed you. Please don’t become one of the statistics of divorce or perhaps worse, stay in a miserable relationship to honor your marriage vows while having so many regrets about your life as the time ticks away.

Take charge and take control of your life. Learn some new ways to improve the relationship you are already in or to prepare yourself for being a better, improved partner for the next person in your life. Contact Kim at 708-957-6047 or email at Kim@TheRelationshipCenter.biz about relationship coaching or take one the many Teleclasses scheduled on the Events Calendar at www.TheRelationshipCenter.biz.  Don’t wait until it is too late.

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Is it REALLY O.K. to want more?

by: Rebecca Hanson

We cannot help but continue to create through our desires and thoughts.
This week, a coaching client asked me this question: “Rebecca, is it REALLY o.k. to want to create more and more and more? Aren’t we supposed to be content with just a few things?”

The answer that came from my Inner Being was so delicious! “Was God, the Creative Force, content to create the earth, sun, moon and a few stars and planets? NO! The Master Creator created more and more and more–infinitely MORE galaxies, infinitely MORE stars, infinitely MORE comets, infinitely MORE nebulae–the Universe is endless! No matter how far out into deep space the Hubble Space Telescope goes it will still be viewing MORE and MORE and MORE.” I believe that even MORE is being created in every moment.

If we are the physical extention of the nonphysical creative force…

If we are “made in the image and likeness of God”… If we are here on earth to be powerful creators (sons and daughters of God)…

–then we cannot help but continue to create through our desires and thoughts.

Do you have a secret dream, desire or hope?

About the Author

Rebecca Hanson is the owner of two successful business, Aurora websites (www.aurorawebsites.com) and co-owner of TeleClass International (www.teleclassinternational.com). She lives, models, coaches and teaches Deliberate Attraction–a practical application of the Law of Attraction.

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